Sermon on Forgiveness on 9-11-2011

Genesis 50:15-21

Matthew 18:21-35

 

When I was growing up, there was a house down the street from us which had slightly tattered window coverings and the front lawn was like a graveyard of broken things.  Posted on the fence was a “No trespassing” sign.  I remember asking my mother what trespassing was so I could be certain not to do it to anyone who lived in that weird house.  When she explained that it meant going into their yard uninvited I thought no problem.  Soon after that when I first learned the Lord’s Prayer I thought it was weird that out of all the sins that Jesus would suggest we ask God to forgive it would be our trespassing.  I pretty much made it a policy to stay out of strange yards and no one seemed to wander into ours uninvited so I thought I was covered.  Only later did I realize that trespassing was only one of countless was to trespass against others.  And now I get it – kind of. Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.  Jesus always seems to be pairing God’s forgiveness of us with our forgiveness of others.

         But why?  why is he always pairing them together?  I kind of always  thought that it was a way of guilting us into forgiving others – like the parable from today – hey, I forgave you 3 trillion dollars and because of that you should feel not just bad, but tortured if you don’t then in turn forgive the 200 bucks that other guy owes you.  Like Jesus was saying hey, I died for you and you can’t even be nice to your little brother?  As though God can get us to do the right thing if God can just make us feel bad about how much we owe God. But that just doesn’t seem to me to be the God revealed in Jesus Christ.  That seems like a manipulative mother. 

And these questions about what forgiveness really is and why is it so important that we do it was all happening for me this week amidst all the remembrances of 9-11.  I kept reading and re-reading these Bible passages about forgiveness and every time I’d take a break my tv or computer was filled with images of burning towers. Which made me wonder…can evil be forgiven?

Now that I’ve mentioned evil here’s a disclaimer: this sermon will in no way answer the question of why a loving God allows evil and suffering.  But mark your calendars because That’s the topic at theology pub this Tuesday.  which brings me to disclaimer #2: it won’t be answered there either.

Our human culture would say that evil is fought through justice and might.  The way we combat evil is by making sure that people get what they have coming to them is.  An eye for an eye.  You attack me and I’ll attack you. Fair is fair.  And there are times in my own life when I’ve been hurt that I’m sure retaliation would make me feel better.  But then when I can’t harm the person who harmed me I just end up harming the people who love me.  So maybe retaliation or holding on to anger about the harm done to us or living in fear of it happening again doesn’t actually combat evil. It feeds it. In the end we can actually absorb the worst of our enemy and on some level become endangered of even becoming them. Because it would seem that when we are sinned against, when someone else does us harm that we are in some way linked to that sin, connected to that mistreatment like a chain through which we absorb it. And we know that our anger, fear or resentment doesn’t free us at all…it just keeps us chained.  And evil persists.  Sin abounds. Brokenness prevails.

Of so it would seem.  But Richard Rohr reminds us that we can tell a lot by what a person does with their suffering: do they transmit it or do they transform it. So while it’s true that God may not prevent evil and we may never fully understand why… God does have a way of combating evil.  It’s not punishment and it’s not retaliation, fear or anger.  It’s forgiveness.  Forgiveness is God’s way of combating evil. 

Of course this offends our impulses for justice or retaliation like mercy always will.  But that’s the God revealed in Jesus for you.  Like it or not this is what we see at the cross.  At Calvary God allows our human system of scape-goating, fear, and retaliation to play its natural course, which ended as it always does: in the suffering of God.  And then in turn, God shows us God’s  system by not even lifting a finger to condemn those who put him on the cross but instead proclaiming, of all things,  forgiveness.  In doing so he cuts the world loose from our own sin because Jesus can’t stand to see us chained to it. At Calvary we see our God entering deeply into the suffering caused by human evil and saying this. ends. here. - I will not transmit it.

We are cut loose.  God’s forgivness is like giant bolt-cutters.  And then God says go and do likewise.  Forgive as you have been forgiven. Cut others loose too.  Jesus commands it.  He commands us to forgive just as he commends us to love.  It’s not actually a suggestion.

But the problem with this is: doesn’t forgiving a sin against us or an evil done to many come perilously close to saying that what they did was ok?  Isn’t forgiving over and over just the thing that keeps battered women battered?

This week as I was thinking about these passages I thought that maybe forgiveness is actually the opposite of saying that what someone has done is ok…it’s saying it’s so not ok that I am not going to absorb it any more. I simply won’t be tied to it.  What happened on 9-11 was NOT ok.  That’s why we need to forgive.  Because we can’t be bound to that kind of evil.  Lest it find the evil in our own hearts and make it’s home there. 

Now, in all fairness I should say that I myself don’t naturally have a forgiving heart.  I love a good resentment as much as the next gal, and if I can go on a rant and get other people to see what an ass that person is then all the better.  Holding onto a grudge or a resentment can feel like a big delicious feast that I can return to again and again until I realize I am the main course.  Our refusal to forgive can eat us alive.

So if there is someone who you feel you just can’t forgive think about how much that resentment is continuing to tie you to them and know that God wants you free from what was done to you.  So here’s what you do…. reach for the bolt-cutters.  Because, when we forgive someone, it’s not an act of niceness, it’s not being a doormat,  it’s an act of fidelity to God’s evil-combating campaign.  Forgiveness is an act of fidelity to the kingdom of God and a defiant stance against the forces of evil – even the evil in our own hearts. And in turn when we are forgiven by someone else we are set free because they are saying they will no longer be bound to the harm we did them. 

In all fairness I should say that this is just the kinda thing that got Jesus killed -that he was going around telling people they were forgiven.  He went about freeing people, cutting them loose. And that kind of freedom is always seen as threatening.

The world doesn’t always like this kind of thing.  Just ask my friend Don – the Lutheran Pastor who lost his job for doing Dylan Klebold’s Funeral.  Dylan Klebold was one of the Columbine shooters and Don had the gall to think that the promises committed to Dylan by God at his baptism were more powerful than the transmission of evil committed by the teen. I don’t see that as saying what Dylan Klebold did was ok.  I see that as a defiant proclamation that evil is simply not more powerful than good and that there really is a light that shines in the darkness and that the darkness can not, will not, shall not overcome it. 

 

Comments

[Jim Fisher]

WOW, Nadia. The Holy Spirit must have flooded your heart late Saturday night! Awesome!

[ur fav Aussie]

thank u.

[julie]

Thank you so much. I have been reading your sermons for a while, and they have helped me so much.

Thank you.

[Revdrewdowns]

Awesome take. I also liked the Hardest Question article! Great work!

[Lisa]

Thank you. I've been looking forward to your sermon this week, and this is awesome.

[elizajanegetman]

the greatest gift and the hardest work are one and the same love. bless you nadia for your work and your wisdom.

[Elizabeth]

Thank you -- this morning I was fed the sermonic (is that a word?) equivalent of Funyons. Thank you for some real soul food.

[Alastair]

Inspired (in the best sense of the word!). Thank you.

Great hearing you at Greenbelt this year: really hope you'll be back next year too.

[Brad Sills, Idaho springs, CO]

I could not have written this better!! Not forgiving someone for "let's say" killing your wife in a drunk driving accident, WILL eat you up inside!! Forgiveness sets you free from that!! By the way, Pastor Don, who was fired from his Christian church for doing that teenagers funeral, is now the pastor at the historic little red church just a 200 feet from my home on Virginia Street in Idaho Springs, CO (Zion Lutheran Church)...Thanks for this!! It was right "on target"!! Amen!!

[Cherie G.]

Awesome! So right on! My status yesterday on FB was "Lest we forget...to forgive." This post was exactly what my spirit was feeling but couldn't put into words. Thank you! Blessings.

[Tammy Carter]

"So maybe retaliation or holding on to anger about the harm done to us or living in fear of it happening again doesn’t actually combat evil. It feeds it." Wow, I needed to read this...I think I've been living in fear too long. Great post, Nadia.

[Diane Roth]

you have no idea how my heart needed to hear this.

wonderful!

[Pastor Mark]

when we forgive someone, it’s not an act of niceness, it’s not being a doormat, it’s an act of fidelity to God’s evil-combating campaign...

Best sermon on forgiveness I've ever heard (or read)!

[Oriah Mountain Dreamer]

Wonderful piece of thinking and writing. I'd love to hear more about the actual ways to use the "bolt cutter." Also, one of the little aha moments I have had recently is that we really cannot forgive if we continue to put ourselves in a position to be repeatedly abused in the future as we have in the past. Leaving the spouse who beats you gives you a real chance at forgiving them. Looking at the factors that contributed to 9/11 (like the huge inequities in the world) and working for real change and redistribution of wealth and opportunities allows us to forgive. Thank you.

[Kristina Robb-Dover]

Thank you, Nadia. This is food for my soul. I'll especially remember "Forgiveness is God's way of combating evil."

[Sarah]

This was life-changing for me. Seriously. Thank you for helping me finally understand how this works. Amen.